Father’s POV, Day 3
So I’ve gotten some sleep, Ian is finally eating, and we’re all feeling a bit better. I don’t regret what I said in the first one, because it was all true, but things have changed. He’s now crying when he wants something, rather than to inform us the sky is blue. He’s eating so Jackie’s feeling better, and most importantly it’s quiet around here.
Tip to new fathers- don’t let the in-laws stick around the first 2 days in the hospital- they can’t help, all they’ll do is get the kid sick. That’s why they have nurses. Sorry [people who don’t want to be named]- I know you guys wanna see him, but having you here was as much a stress as everything else.
So I sat down and talked with jackie about the stress that caused that last tirade-
- too many people
- not enough sleep
- not enough showers
- bad back/bed combination
- forgot my back meds
- not eating good (mcdonalds and burger king in 12 hours)
- the constant screaming and general difficulty of Ian
Right now Ian is sleeping on jackie’s chest after feeding for a solid 30 minutes, and she’s just as zonked out as him. So yeah, while I don’t regret the previous post, things have changed. It’s important to me to document the whole story, not just the good.
well, sorry jesse – but to be honest (like you) get used to it. i am not going to be a stranger to my nephew.
My husband is anti-social, hates loud noises, and has a hard time in crowded areas….how do you think he would react in a small hospital room, with a newborn who is learning to use his lungs, with a revolving door of constant people. It’s nothing against anyone, but with everything stacking on top each other, he was being overloaded.
Once everyone left and he was able to take a shower, he was AMAZINGLY calm and had time to bond with Ian.
No offense people, but if we don’t want you around, you won’t be. There is no question that we shut the door in your face if we don’t want you around regardless of how far you have traveled. We deserve our time to bond and Jesse was also feeling left out of the experience with so many people wanting to see Ian as well. We understand that this is new and everyone wants to see, but please respect the fact that we want to get to know our child and make sure is he healthy.
We have found that the reason the hospital doesn’t allow many people to hold newborns (other than parents) is because you’re all diseased. :) We’ve noticed Ian has been sneezing, but we’re hoping that is the same as the twitching and it’s body getting used to his body.
/me is a little slow on the uptake. I only get online at work now. GRATZ!!!!!!1!!11! :D
well, screaming babies never really bothered me all that much. but all that changed when it was my kid. after some experience the crying only drives me crazy after I’ve changed/fed/burped her. it’s the guilt that gets me…
thankfully, not all relatives will put their own interests first. good for you, mom and dad, for standing firm. you will have times when you’ll relent and allow others to make decisions, but YOU are the parents, ultimately responsible and accountable.
i wonder how people liek tia and tio interact with peopel at large…are we all here just for their benefit? geees, get some perspective people!
I think everyone, including Ian, has gas and it’s making them cranky.
Only 17 years and 355 days left.